Fight Fair

Despite what many say, fighting is a part of any good relationship. The problem is not that couples fight, but how they fight. If you fight unfairly, then you destroy trust. If you fight fairly, you build trust. A fair fight means that you never resort to name calling or putdowns, keep the discussion in the present, don t use phrases that are absolutes (such as you never or you always ), don t bring the other person s family into the issue to support your case or to attack your spouse.