DO NOT SECOND GUESS

In the Talmud, we are told that, No one knows another persons thoughts. When someone is in a bad mood or disappoints you, you may be sure that he or she trying to hurt you intentionally. Unless abusive or mentally ill, assume that the person is doing his best, but simply does not have the emotional maturity or skills to do any better. What distinguishes healthy guilt from unhealthy guilt is intention. We all inevitably hurt people, because it is impossible to fulfill all their needs or always know how to please them. And we all have annoying habits. If you accidentally cause pain to your spouse, simply apologize and say, Im sorry. I had no intention to hurt you. Practice now by forgiving those who have no intention to hurt you. If necessary, clarify what happened.