The Eighty Twenty Rule

Dr. Abbotts , 80-20 rule was developed from a story he read several years ago called 80 percent I love you, 20 percent I hate you. From this story he concluded, to avoid overfocusing on the spouses negatives, you can train your mind to focus on the positives. Overlook the few small things(20 percent) that you dont like about your spouse and continually remind yourself of the 80 percent you like.