Fights ruin relationships

In actuality, what ruins relationships is not resolving your fights, Blum said. Fights can be really healthy, and an important form of communication and clearing the air.
Also, the type of fight a couple has plays a role. Not surprisingly, nasty, scornful or condescending fights that leave couples resolution less and not talking for days damage the relationship. Productive conflicts that help the relationship end with some mutual decision about how to manage this disagreement, Blum said. Here s help on improving your communication and becoming a better listen and speaker.