marriage tips

Marriage Tips

41. One of the most important factors in a good marriage is respect
Respect each other, avoid verbal abuse, and keep insults to yourself. Bad words are just like squeezing toothpaste out of its tube once it is out you can never get it back in again.
42. Set aside 10 minutes a day to talk to your partner
Ask what her favorite movie is and why, ask him to recall a happy memory from childhood, ask her what shed like to be remembered for, ask him to name the three worst songs of all time. Do it at dinner, before bed, or anytimeas long as you do it for 10 minutes every day. This simple change infuses relationships with new life
43. You can have control or you can have connection with your partner
but you cant have both.Pursue connection!
44. Every week if possible go out on a date just like you did before you were married
Select an activity where the two of you can interact, talk, and just be together enjoying each others company (not a movie!). End your date in the bedroom.
45. Couples often lose each other because of their busy lives
Ahealthy marriage is one that has a mix of individual, family, and couple time. The amount of each may be different for each couple, but the mix is necessary to keep a functional marriage.
46. Our brains are the only organ in the human body which do not self regulate
but need to be in connection with another brain for healing.Sit face to face and gaze into your lovers eyes in order to allow the limbic system to relax. This will bring you closer and create the deepest sort ofintimacy.
47. When you first see each other at the end of your respective days
before you do anything else, hold each other without speaking for at least 60 seconds.By doing so you remind each others old/reptilian brains that you are a source of pleasure and comfort. Its simple, its easy to do, and it will make a world of difference.
48. Preface important communication with a simple yet effective introduction
Try: Honey, Im confused about your response to my plans for a weekend hunting trip with the guys. When would be a good time to talk further? My relationship coaching clients have found that prefacing their remarks encourages a better, more accommodating reaction from their partner.
49. On those ever important date nights remember to be a wife first and a critic second
Every time you open your mouth to complain about something whether its the food, the service, the movie, the weather, whatever some part of your partner feels hes failing because you arent having a great time. Men are happiest when they can please their woman! Save the full critique for your girlfriends and in meantime, let him see the best in you.
50. Lean in
When it gets hard in a relationship, our tendency is to protect ourselves, to retreat, to lean out. Leaning out when your partner reaches out creates distance and dissonance. If instead you lean in to the uncomfortable feelings, to the unknown and your own vulnerability, and meet your partner, you can actually strengthen your relationship through the struggles you face together.