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Remember, your spouse is human, and so are you. Make allowances for the human condition: tired, overworked, over stressed, family illnesses, personal illnesses, and simple frailty.

Cold shouldering or constant arguing about a contentious issue will likely just drive you apart. A thoughtful gesture can go a long way in helping you feel closer to each other, making it that much more likely that you will work through your problems. This works especially well if you feel like your partner does not compliment or do nice things for you often any more. Start complimenting them and make it a point to be nice they'll WANT to do something nice for you!

Whether its a compliment on his or her outfit or a thank you for just taking out the trash, it always feels good to get a little boost from the person you love. And you will feel good doing the boosting.

When you say I m sorry , mean it!That means you wont repeat the action. Apologizing and then repeating the behavior shows your mate that you werent that sorry after all, and it erodes trust over time.

Being transparent with your partner is important, because it shows you each trust one another with every detail of your lives. If you are harboring secrets, they will eventually be found out and that will spell trouble for your marriage. Keeping things clear and open prevents suspicion and jealousy. Donot do things to get a rise out of your spouse, and if someone at the office is hitting on you and wont stop, tell your boss about it and ask that one of you be transferred. If you maintain a clean appearance and an honest, open communication with your partner, you will be trusted when its truly imperative.

While you are planning your wedding, you may entertain fairy tale notions of a life lived happily ever after. The reality of marriage is that sometimes, its just a day to day grind one or both of you may be tense, on edge, bored, not happy with the other one, not feel so warm and fuzzy. Its not all about your feelings. Repeat: it is not all about your feelings. Its about your commitment to one another. Whether or not you feel like you are in love, feel you are getting your needs met, or whatever, the reality is, you have sworn a vow to one another. A lot of the time, marriage isnt romantic at all its about teamwork and getting the job done every single day.

You will have much less stress to deal with if you work together to plan a budget, accumulate at least a small savings account , and prepare for the times when things go wrong, life will be much smoother.

If you are having a rough patch, feeling like you just cant remember what attracted you to him in the first place, wondering what possessed you to marry her. just smile and behave yourself in a kind, genteel way. Act like everything is normal. In fact, go out of your way to be kind, thoughtful, and caring toward your mate. It may sound weird, but if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and act like nothings wrong, eventually, everything really will be normal, okay, and even better.

A lot of well meaning people say that you shouldnt let the sun set on a fight. But its far better to simply come to a point in the argument where you can stop fighting actively and sleep on it. Instead of continuing an argument that is escalating out of control and going in circles, stopping, resting, and waking refreshed can give you new perspective, and help you come to a better and more satisfying resolution than just fighting it out until you are both battered, bloody, and after you have said things you can never take back. Sleeping on it will also help you allow residual negative feelings to dissipate you dont always just say, Okay, thats it, argument over, and return to those warm, loving feelings sometimes resentment lingers awhile. Let it go get some rest. You'll both feel better in the morning.

By finding one way each day to make your partners life just a little bit nicer, you will never forget that you truly do care for him or her. Doing nice things for your mate makes you think nice thoughts about him or her. Its a good habit.