tips for perfect reception party

Your guests have already spent hours, if not days, at prewedding events and at the ceremony itself theyre likely to be tired. Though you may wish the reception would never end, it should last no more than five hours. Also, make it clear that any after parties you schedule are entirely optional.

A few small comfort items are always appreciated. Consider stashing a basket of inexpensive slippers near the dance floor for women who are tired of their high heels. Have hand lotion, tissues, or hair spray in the restrooms. At an outdoor fete, stock sunscreen, bug repellent, paper fans, and perhaps even a few cozy wraps for the women in case of a sudden evening chill.

Less is more when it comes to a wedding reception, so consider ditching the 30 minute video montage or the fireworks display for something less elaborate. Even a gesture as simple as distributing sparklers at night end can charm guests and keep them from feeling overloaded.

Your hospitality should extend to photographers, videographers, waiters, and musicians, as well as any other vendors working at your reception. Make sure they have water, scheduled breaks, and, most important, a meal. It need not be the same one that you are serving to guests, but it should be nourishing and delicious.

Unexpected entertainment is wonderful when your guests tire of dancing. A portrait station of do it yourself Polaroids, a cigar roller, or a strolling palm reader can offer a touch of surprise and whimsy.

Hors doeuvres are best when they are easy to serve and eat. you are offering a choice, so go ahead and pick something exotic plan on about six options and six pieces per person. Vegetable spring rolls (left) by Callahan Catering.

You may be able to afford a premium baker even on a tight budget. Skip labor intensive iced decorations and ask for a simpler style, then dress it up with ribbon and fresh flowers. Be sure the flowers you use are food safe and pesticide free. Wedding cake (below) by Cheryl Kleinman.

If your budget allows, pamper guests with a plated meal instead of a buffet it an especially nice gesture. If youd prefer a buffet, be sure to have enough serving stations to prevent long lines, and ask your caterer to prepare and serve plates of food for any elderly guests in attendance.

For an event that includes many children or abstaining adults, consider having a separate table with sparkling and flat water, as well as a spirit free version of your signature drink if you are serving one.

There no need at many weddings to stock your bar with a full selection of liquor. A red and a white wine, a sparkling wine, and a signature cocktail (like the mintinis ) are plenty, and theyre economical to boot. Below, photographed on location at Oheka Castle Hotel and Estate in Huntington, New York. Bar design and drinks by Callahan Catering. Floral garlands by Livia Cetti for the Green Vase.