myth about adoption

Myth about Adoption

Adoption is a process whereby a person assumes the parenting of another, usually a child.
31. There are many unwanted babies available for domestic adoption
Birthmothers love their children and want what is best for them A birthmother contacts an adoption agency when she is unable to parent her child Adoption agencies recognize how difficult a decision this is and uses a unique hands on case management approach for both birth parents and adoptive parents
32. Birthparents who care about their child would never consider adoption
if you consider adoption for your child, you are a cold, uncaring, selfish person Maybe you re afraid others will think you don t love your child In fact, women who make adoption plans for their children are among the most courageous, because they put their child s needs first Choosing to place your child with a family that can provide a stable, loving, home is an act of love and sacrifice, not an act of abandonment
33. A birthparent will never know anything about her child
As the birthparents, you can help to develop an adoption plan that has the degree of openness you want The adoption process today seeks to share information on a level that will benefit all birthparents, adoptive parents and most importantly, the child
34. You can t adopt unless you re rich and have a big house
If you can support the child with food, water, a bed, a roof, a healthy environment, safety, and an education, then you can adopt There are adoption requirements that you have to meet in order to raise a child, but boatloads of money is not one of them The child only needs a bed by law; however, if you have multiple children, you need to meet other legal obligations such as living requirements of children over the age of 6 Contact us if you re interested in adoption, but aren t sure if it s possible
35. All adopted children will never see their birth parents again
If the family uses open adoption, a child could reconnect with their birth parents in the future In many cases, the child doesn t even desire to reconnect with their birth parents, so this is myth is only partially true Learn more about the differences between open adoption and closed adoption here
36. The Adoption Process Takes Many Years
The timeframe is unpredictable because it depends on when you are chosen by a prospective birth mother Depending on the quality of the profile you create and how open you are to different situations, many domestic adoptions can be completed in only a few months
37. Your child will think adoption is the greatest thing to happen to him
But most likely he ll think of his adoption much differently than you will It s your dream to get a child, but it s his nightmare He s being taken from his familiar environment to a strange place among strange people perhaps never to see his former caregivers again For a child who has already been traumatized, adoption itself can be a trauma It depends on the age and situation of the child
38. Adoption will complete you
We were hoping to complete our family because we felt insufficient But this was too much pressure to put on him How could a broken boy complete us? Instead, adoptive parents need to know who they are so they can be who the child needs them to be whole, resolute, and overflowing We adopted our first child because of infertility
39. Birthmothers will always struggle with the emotional pain of placing a child for adoption
Our trained staff is here to help you process your emotions in a healthy way Many birthmothers tell us they find peace in knowing that their child is happy, healthy, and loved by the adoptive family they chose In addition, most birthmothers find that the experience actually gives them strength and confidence to face other challenges throughout their lives
40. Adoption means abandoning your child
Adoption is the complete opposite of abandonment It is a loving, mature, and responsible parenting decision Adoption means planning for the child s future and making sure his or her child s long term needs are met Adoption is by no means taking the easy way out It is a difficult decision where the birthmother places her child s needs above her own wants