wedding

Wedding

Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnic groups, religions, countries.
111. Get your money handling under control
Whether you are dating or have been married for 20 years, we can all get better at how we handle money in our relationships. Money is a tool. In our marriages, we have to be on the same page about how it is used. It is critical that you set guidelines about money. Who will pay the bills? How much money will you spend and on what? How will you make decisions about big expenses? If you both dont agree on a big expense, then wait to purchase it. Money cant be more important than our marriages. If you are able, take a financial class together to learn about how to be wise with your money. Do You Make More Money Than Him?
112. Learn better communication skills
In school we were taught many things: how to write, how to count, how to spell words but I dont remember a class on relationship communication. Learning how to effectively communicate with your spouse is extremely important. It is something that we really have to work on for most of us it doesnt come naturally. I suggest you read books, listen to podcasts, go to conferences anything you can do to improve yourself on both sides of the communication process, better listening and better speaking, so your mate will understand you.
113. Have a relationship with God
The foundation of a good marriage is one that includes God. Our pastor made a great statement: You dont know who you are, until you know who God is. If we get our identities from our past, our occupations, our families or our spouses, then our marriages will be much more difficult than they have to be. Everybody knows that line from the movie Jerry Maguire where Tom Cruise says You complete me. Well, thats just bogus. I cant complete my beautiful wife and she cant complete me. We can complement each other, we can each bring different strengths to the marriage, but I have to know who I am first . And I really cant figure out who I am until I have an understanding of the person who created me.
114. Put in the work
Love is a way of being that takes consistent work to master. If you are still swept up in the emotional side of love you may not have had time to step back and work out if this person is really right for you. A pre-marriage course can help.
115. Beyond the wedding
Remember to have a marriage, not just a wedding. They are two different things. Too often all the focus is given to the external event details, and the reason for the wedding the pledge of love between two people is completely lost.
116. What are you committing to
Marriage used to be about having children or a lifetime union. These days it means different things to different people. What counts is that you take the time to decide what marriage means to you.
117. Why marriage
Each write down what is important to you in a relationship and then spend a weekend away to share each other's ideas. This helps establish what marriage means to you both and creates the foundation for a life together.
118. The ceremony
The wedding ceremony will symbolise the love you are committing to. Dont be ruled by tradition. Make it your own. Write down key words that sum up the essence of the marriage, then think of ways to symbolise them at your wedding. Allow for fun!
119. Address doubts
Get emotional support in the lead-up to the marriage. Have people around you to whom you can speak honestly. Allow for doubts dont push them away. It is better to address them. Make sure this really is right for you.
120. Different phases of love
Take the time to remind yourself that marriage is not about being in love. Be prepared for the in-love phase to pass it doesnt mean anything is wrong. It just means you have to get down to the business of really learning how to love.