tips to successful relationship

Tips to successful Relationship

In romantic relationships, as with so much else, its the little things that count.
41. Dont ask how was your day
At the end of a long day, we tend to mentally check out of our lives and consequently, our relationship. We rely on the standard question, How was your day? Generally, that boring question will yield a boring answer such as, Fine, how was yours? This does nothing to improve your connection and instead, can actually damage it because you re losing the opportunity to regularly connect in a small way.
42. Keep it sexy
What might change in your relationship if both you and your partner committed to increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that arent? Think about this in the broadest form. Sexy can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day to day lives. Do you find it sexy if he/she helps with the housework? Do you find it unsexy when he/she uses the restroom with the door wide open? Talk about what it specifically means to keep it sexy in your relationship. Be amazed, be humored, be inspired.
43. Get it on
Unless you have committed to an asexual partnership, sex, sexual contact and touching kissing, holding hands, cuddling etc. are vital components of a romantic relationship. The frequency is of course, up to you and it s imperative that you discuss your ideas about it in order to prevent resentment. Rare are the moments when both partners are in the mood at the exact same second, but that doesnt mean that you have to decline their advances. Remind yourself that you will almost always get there after the first few minutes and that an intimate interaction of any kind builds connection and elevates your mood and health. Bear in mind that you are never required to say yes. If you truly dont feel it, the best thing you can do is to postpone. Just make sure that you initiate or accept within a reasonable amount of time thereafter.
44. Seek to understand
Easy in concept, difficult in application. Conversations quickly turn to arguments when we re invested in hearing our partner admit that we were right or when we are intent on changing his/her opinion. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand your significant others perspective as opposed to waiting for them to concede. From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent a blow out or lingering frustration.
45. Make your apology count
Its well understood that apologizing is a good thing but it only makes a real impact when you mean it. Saying things like Im sorry you feel that way or Im sorry you see it that way are a waste of time and breath. Even if you dont agree that your action was wrong, you will never successfully argue a feeling.
46. Develop Self Awareness
Developing self awareness means getting to know and understand what drives you to react and behave the ways you do in your relationship. It means understanding the needs and fears, messages, unrealistic expectations and fantasies which drive you to react and behave the way you do and the price you pay for it. It means realizing the ways in which you might harm your relationship, learning how to stop it from happening and becoming empowered to cultivate a successful intimacy.
47. Be each others best friend
One of the first questions I often ask the couples I work with is, Who is your best friend? If they answer that they are each others best friends, I know that there is a foundation upon which to repair their relationship.
If, on the other hand, the couple tells me that they dont think of each other as friends at all, I know I have my work cut out for me. A best friend is someone you feel safe with, someone you trust with the good, the bad and the ugly of who you are, someone who knows you inside and out and who accepts you nonetheless.
A best friend is someone who has your back in life and whose back you have someone you can really, truly count on. A best friend is someone you just plain like spending time with because you feel fond of that person and that persons very presence makes you feel happy. A best friend is someone who will hang in there with you and work through problems.
Most of all, a best friend is someone you admire and respect and whose presence you feel blessed by in life. Couples who feel this way about each other tend to be successful. Couples who dont may be missing the most important cornerstone of a happy marriage.
48. Recognize and admit
Ever at the lips of a happy couple are the words, I could be wrong. It takes character to take a look at your position in a conflict and acknowledge that you need to adjust your perception or attitude. Not everybody can do it, but it is essential to good problem solving. And good problem solving is part of what makes a good marriage.
49. Word of mouth marketing
Many businesses will tell you that they get almost all of their business through referrals. These referrals can come from friends, family, and satisfied customers. Its a free, unbiased, and extremely effective way to promote your work and generate more business.
50. Finding jobs
The same philosophy applies to people looking for a job. When I was in the job search process, I discovered an interesting statistic: Almost 90% of people look for jobs only by looking at ads, but thats where only 10% of available jobs exist. At least 30% come from referrals. The more you focus on your network and relationships, the better connected to opportunities youll be.