tips to successful relationship

Tips to successful Relationship

In romantic relationships, as with so much else, its the little things that count.
11. Talk to each other
Just because you love each other doesnt mean you will be able to communicate well or can read your partners mind, or that they can read yours. Communicate your needs dont wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you.
12. Listen to each other
Often we are so busy defending ourselves that we dont hear what our partner is saying. Let your partner know that you have heard them before you give them your response.
13. Make repair attempts
If your attempts to talk about an issue dont go as planned, try not to let the situation become even more negative such as not talking for extended periods or ignoring the other persons attempts . Saying sorry or touching your partner in a caring manner shows you care, even though you disagree.
14. Spend time together
Make your relationship a priority and make time for each other, even if you have to book it in. Regular deposits in your relationship bank account will help protect your relationship.
15. Everyone is different
Accept and value differences in others, including your partner. We often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.
16. Make plans
Set goals for your relationship and plan for your future. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.
17. Be supportive
Try not to judge, criticise or blame each other; we are all human. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.
18. Learn from arguments
Accept that arguments will happen and try to resolve them with respect. The strongest predictor of divorce is contempt, which is any action whereby your partner feels put down by you, whether it is the tone of your voice or what you say. Often in arguments, we become overwhelmed and this can often lead to behaviours that harm our relationship.
19. Enjoy yourself
Have fun and celebrate your life together. Rituals can enhance your relationship. Its also important to try new things as a couple. Doing fun activities together is very important, as often deep and meaningfuls about couple issues can turn into disagreements which leave you both feeling worse, not better. Fun activities are like glue.
20. Share power
Ensure that each of you feels that your opinion counts. Research shows that relationships where the female partner feels that she can influence her partner are the most successful.