things that define your personality
The Generation You Belong To
. Not all people within a given generation will share the same values across the board, but there are certainly overall trends that give each generation its own unique flavour. According to Forbes, some of the characteristics of the millennial generation, for example, include valuing experiences as much as or more than money and having a willingness to question authority quite different from their parents generation.
. The food you eat affects you in all sorts of ways. Eating healthy promotes healthy organ function, including that of your brain. Eating poorly can lead to deficiencies, which will affect your body and mind, or obesity, which will likewise affect your body and mind, or any number of other ailments that arise through diet.
. This one is actually more complex than it seems. The idea that children exhibit behaviour that corresponds to the order of their birth relative to their siblings is a very old one, but some have also suggested that the way a child perceives themselves in the hierarchy of siblings is just as important. Essentially, if you have an older sibling who acts like a younger sibling, and you act like an older sibling, you might have the reverse personalit
. Genetics play a huge role in determining who you are. For a long time, psychologists believed every person was born a blank slate, and that personality was entirely learned. Twin studies, though, have offered pretty solid evidence to the contrary. Twins, separated as infants and raised in different families, exhibit remarkably similar behaviour.
. Of course, your genes and the way they are expressed only go so far. Pile on top of that the sum of all the experiences youve gone through and you begin to get a more complete picture of a human person. Think of it less as nature vs. nurture, and more like nature informing nurture.
. Women have several different problems than men do, men have several different problems than women do, and those with non-traditional gender identities have a whole host of other problems unique to themselves. Some of these are biological, others are social, but theyre all factors in determining who you are.
. Environment is a broad term, encapsulating everything from geography to society to home life. Two Christians born in very different societies might share some values in common, just as two Americans with different religions might, or two island-dwelling people with different nationalities and religions. Ultimately, the more environmental commonalities, the more likely two people will share certain values.
. The way a family interacts is important for a whole host of reasons. The way you learn to behave at home is often how you behave elsewhere. The way you are treated, and see others treated, influences your priorities when interacting with others, as well as how you expect interactions with others to proceed.
. Similar to family dynamic, the specific manner in which you are parented is important, and there are all kinds of theories out there about what works and what doesnt. Most parents try to strike a balance between allowing freedom and trying to keep kids on the straight and narrow, and the precise mix (or lack thereof) is an important piece of who that child turns out to be.
. There is a correlation between education and political leanings. Generally, better educated people tend to be progressive, while less educated people tend to conservatism. This is one of those times where its hard to say which causes the other maybe progressive people just value education more but it seems likely that broadening ones horizons would have some effect on the way a person thinks.
. Money can buy happiness. Specifically, the more money you earn, the happier you tend to be up to the saturation point, which has been identified as an income of about $75,000 a year. Thats the point where happiness as a consequence of earning money plateaus. On the other hand, debt or low income living can be a huge source of stress.
Level Of Physical Activity
. Exercise changes a persons hormone levels and organ function. Done properly, getting exercise is a great, natural way to improve your mood. There are also studies that have shown that maintaining a healthy level of exercise is linked with improved brain function later in life, including helping prevent dementia.
. Everyone knows at least one person who really, really needs their morning coffee. Thats a fairly tame example of addiction flexing its muscle, but really, its not much different from other addictions. At a certain point with certain substances, the body can develop an emotional or physical need. Abstaining can alter mood and personality drastically, and addiction, unfortunately, appears to last forever, so sufferers are never fully free of that c
. Some research has suggested that reading changes the brain on a physical level, bridging areas that otherwise would not connect. Beyond that, there is some evidence to suggest people who read fiction are more empathetic. Perhaps seeing things from a different perspective in a book makes it easier to do in real life.
. We touched on stress briefly earlier, but its worthy of its own entry. Stress, in the way that we normally think of it, is a reaction we have to stimuli that scare or worry us. Typically, we deal with this either by trying to confront the thing or to flee it. Trouble is, modern life doesnt always allow one of those as an option, and so stress can have a lasting and damaging effect on health and the mind.
. This one might seem silly, but its still true. The weather outside affects our mood, and some of us more than others. The winter blues, also known as Seasonal Affective Disorder, are very real, and are likely related to the fact that sunshine boosts serotonin (an antidepressant) levels in the brain.
. This one is another fairly broad category. Younger people have developing brains and, for a while, hormone levels that are totally out of whack. Middle age brings yet more hormone changes, and old age more again, and the way these changes manifest in the body affect personality. Beyond that, theres no doubt that slowing down and approaching death will alter behaviour and thinking.
The Way You Think Meditation
. Its possible to try and alter the way you think, and doing so successfully can be beneficial. Practicing meditation can help calm you by letting you learn to escape the distracting and damaging thoughts that float around the human mind. As with reading, theres evidence to suggest meditation can change the physical connections in the brain.
Your Posture Expression
. When were happy, we smile. When were confident, we stand tall. But its also true that when we smile, were happy, and when we stand tall, were confident. It turns out its possible to fake it till you make it by purposefully changing your stance and expression to affect mood, so your parents have been right all along stand up straight.
Your Sleeping Habits
. Sleep changes everything. A lack of it affects our hormones negatively, changes our appetites, and even makes us less intelligent. The best way to get rest is to wake up and go to bed at more or less the same time every day. Had a late night and need more sleep? Fight through it and get up at the same time, then take a nap later in the day. It keeps you on schedule while still getting you the shuteye you crave.
Focus on your personality
. Personality is the sum of all characteristics that make a person, you, unique. Another way of thinking of it is personality is like a puzzle, its made up of many pieces. Its natural to have many different kinds of emotions on different subjects.
Figure out your Personality Traits
. Extroverts people who like to be around people and communicate with them. Introverts - people who like to be alone most often, and are energized from spending time alone.Influences on personality At a young age, your personality is already forming by things you see and hear. For the rest of your life, your personality will still be changing. When your older, youre an adult, you usually have a base personality, for example, all your friends agree
Know your Self concept
. Self concept is how you see yourself, your opinion of yourself and the way you see yourself. On the outside AND inside.
Building Self esteem
. Self-esteem is the way you feel about yourself. Building self-esteem -except yourself -forgive yourself -learn a new skill -reach out to others -be positive -be assertive NOT aggressive
. Openness refers to traits, such as how inclined someone is to conform to societal or cultural norms, how concretely or abstractly someone thinks about things, and how open or resistant someone is to change. A person who is a creative thinker and always looking for ways to do things better would likely score high on measures of openness.
. Conscientiousness has to do with a persons degree of organization, level of discipline, and how prone he or she is to taking risks. The college student who never misses a class and has a 4.0 GPA would probably prove to have a high degree of conscientiousness as measured on a personality assessment.
. Extraversion is a personality characteristic that describes things like how social a person is or how warm and loving they tend to be. Extraverts are people who would typically prefer to go out to a party with lots of friends, as opposed to stay in and watch a movie with one or two friends.
. Agreeableness takes into account how kind, dependable, and cooperative a person is. People who score high on scales of agreeableness are typically more interested in doing things for the common good, as opposed to fulfilling their own self-interests.
. Neuroticism is a personality characteristic that describes how nervous or anxious a person tends to be, as well as the degree of self-confidence and self-contentment he or she possesses. Individuals who score high on levels of neuroticism will often be preoccupied with the what ifs of life. They tend to be worrisome and preoccupied with things that might not be within their control.
. In addition to generally being a very anxious person, I feel very uncertain about my competence, worth, and characteristics.
. I have a bad habit of putting myself down in fear of giving myself more credit than I deserve. Relative to others, I feel ugly, stupid, boring, dependent, and just overall useless.
. Im usually very polite, respectful, pleasant, and compassionate. I usually dont initiate contact, but if given the chance, I can be very sweet.
. Im very eager to please, highly motivated by praisegratitude, and take lots of pride in being useful to somebody
. I have a habit of immersing myself in a thought, emotion, interest, or hobby to an almost obsessive degree.