myth about anger

Myth about Anger

myths about anger Before you can change the way you think about anger, and the way you act.
21. Victims provoke their partners violence
Whatever the problems exist in a relationship, the use of violence is never justifiable or acceptable. There is NO EXCUSE for domestic violence.
22. Anger management programs are briefer
Briefer and less expensive than certified batterer intervention programs, anger management programs are not effective to address the deep rooted issues of batterers.
23. Anger and Disappointment
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. One of the leading experts on anger has found that people can get angry by being exposed to foul odors, aches and pains, and hot temperatures none of which involve (or can be blamed on) the actions of others.
24. Domestic violence abusers can t control their anger
Most abusers manage their anger very well everywhere except at home or with their partners. Domestic violence isn t about anger. It s about entitlement, power and control. An abuser will only stop his behavior if he attends treatment that is specifically designed to challenge his attitude of entitlement, hold him accountable for his violence, and teach him how to change his choices and actions.
25. People with anger problems speak and act before they think
Everybody has to think first to be able to speak and act. However, the first thought of people with anger problems is to want to judge or punish. This leads to problem behaviour. They just don t take the time to check out their thinking and what it makes them do.
26. Conflict frustration and anger cause violence
Ill tempered people experience conflict and frustration at times without becoming violent. Violence is a choice.
27. Anger problems is often thought to be genetically inherited
These problems often run in families, but are the results of learning unhealthy habits of thinking and behaviour.
28. Anger and aggression are natural for humans
humans are born with a basic instinct for anger and aggression has been used to explain just about everything from marital arguments to global warfare.The thinking here is that instinctual biological pressures can push people past some built in anger threshold.The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively.Anger is a natural adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.
29. Frustration always leads to aggression
frustration leads to aggression was made by the famous Sigmund Freud, who believed that individuals are born with an innate aggressive instinct.This idea that frustration leads to aggression received quite a bit of research support back in the 1950s and 60s, but we now know that aggression is not the only behavior that can follow frustration and hurt.For instance, many Tibetan people were suddenly displaced from their homeland after the Chinese invaded Tibet in 1952. Most of these people now live in exile. ,
30. A person s anger is caused by others
Anger experts say that they consistently notice that angry clients come into therapy with one or more reasons to explain and justify why they are so angry.As soon as you decide that someone else is responsible for your hurt or physical tension, the focus shifts from you to them. You can then feel justified in releasing your pain and hurt with anger directed toward those you believe to be responsible for it.Anger is triggered by people and events outside your control. However, how you react to your anger thoughts and feelings is up to you shifting the blame to others, you rob yourself of the opportunity to make changes in your behavior