marriage tips

Marriage Tips

31. Before you get mad or assign blame take a breath and ask your partner for his or her perspective
For instance, its your spouses job to walk the dog in the morning, but you discover dog poop on the kitchen floor and cleaning it up makes you late for work. Instead of immediately placing blame, saying something like, Im puzzled about what happened with Spot this morning, is a gentle way to start a conversation.
32. Make a list of three of the happiest moments in your marriage
Spend a few minutes each day briefly reliving those moments in your mind. The results will amaze you.
33. You can change your relationship for the better by increasing the use of the following statements
I love you, Im here for you, I understand, Im sorry, Thank you, I really appreciate all that you do, Its so nice to see you, That was quite an accomplishment!
34. Appreciate your partner at least five times each day
Appreciate them from your heart about who they are at their essence. Leave gratitude in love notes, hide them so they will find them, or look deeply into their eyes and tell them. Be creative!
35. In order to keep the spark alive and avoid roommate syndrome
couples have to understand the notion of spending time together versus creating sacred time together. Spending time at social events, time with family and doing chores together does not count as sacred time. Instead, carve out special time to not only be intimate, but also ensure that you continue to share new experiences together such as hiking, exploring someplace new, or arranging a stay cation in your own city.
36. Compliment your spouse everyday
A compliment is a sign of acknowledgment and appreciation. Make an effort to affirm your spouses value in life, and in love.
37. Create a clear vision of your shared future together
Sit down, listen to each other and write out how you want your future as a couple to look. Its much easier to create your best relationship together if both peoples needs are voiced, heard and supported by their partner.
38. Censor every impulse to blame or criticize your partner
Do everything you can to support your partners well being, and respect your partner as you would your best friend
39. You need to date your mate
Date night is sacred and special and should be on the same day of the week every week. One week the wife should suggest the date idea and the husband should come up with the date night plan for the opposite week. This encourages both the husband and wife to be invested in date night.
40. Communication and time together are the keys to strengthening your marriage
Impossible to imagine one without the other